Chalk it up and move on...

Soooooo, sometimes it's hard to change.  Sometimes, it's hard to accept change.  Big difference between the two.

Sometimes we change -- our thoughts, actions, outlook -- because either we are forced to do so by circumstances, or we choose to because of circumstances.  Either way, sometimes it is difficult to change.  It's hard to let go of the old ways and move towards the new, even when our heart is in the right place and our head knows it is for the better.

Why is that?  

Because it's hard.  Habits are comfortable.  We don't have to think about them.  They are like an old pair of jeans that fits just right, holes and all.  And sometimes we just don't want to be challenged any more.  We are tired.  

Sometimes, change is forced upon us.  I think that human nature is such that our natural reaction is to dislike change, again even though we know it might be better.  Our dreams and plans usually center around an ideal path and desired outcome, and when that doesn't happen it is difficult to accept that.

And yet, like anything, we have a choice as we approach change -- in ourselves, in our surroundings.  We can choose to fight it tooth and nail, kicking and screaming, arguing why we should stay the same.   And in the process, waste an enormous amount of energy fighting something that you cannot stop or control.  And let's not talk about the stress that generates!

Or we can choose to take it in stride, accept that our plans are not always what the greater universe has in store for us, and try to find the positive in the change of direction.  Sometimes, that acceptance takes some time.  

But things happen that invoke change and sometimes, there isn't a darn thing we can do about it.  Sometimes our plans and dreams are different that someone else's and so their actions impact our lives.  But once you get over the fork in the road, you must face the new path with the realization that there are loads of opportunities on that path, just like there were on the original road, that we would have never seen had we not been forced to change directions.  They are just different than we envisioned.

So we have to open our eyes, our hearts and our minds to all the possibilities, and let go of the old, and let go of what we wish had happened.  Sometimes it just isn't going to happen.  Sometimes, we just need to be patient to see that the new path is even better than we could have possibly imagined.  We just need to have the right outlook.  And a bit of patience.